How do you rebuild your confidence after a major disappointment?
You may go through some disappointing experiences in your artistic ventures, business ventures, or whatever else you might be pursuing. And those experiences can be disappointing—sometimes maybe even low-key traumatic.
More often than not, there are people involved. Clients. Partners. Relationships you've built up with vendors. Perhaps you've given your word to complete certain tasks or made promises to customers. And there's usually some messiness that comes along with having to pull the plug, step away, pivot, or decide to do things differently.
I certainly experienced disappointment in my network marketing efforts. It wasn't just that I lost my business. I lost my faith. I lost the girl. And my financial situation really wasn't in a great place at the time. I remember spending that summer quite depressed. And I really think it was more than just circumstantial.
But as I said in an earlier video, I hadn't given up on myself. I hadn't given up on my ultimate success or my dreams. So what was my choice? The only choice, difficult as it was, was to keep going and to figure out a new vehicle and a new way of achieving my dreams.
Here's what helped me rebuild my confidence: I started searching for things on YouTube. I think one of the things I searched up was "how to live as a super sensitive person," or something along those lines. I was very surprised to find some of the materials that ended up lifting me out of some depression. I purchased Tony Hawk's Pro Skater HD. It actually wasn't very good, but I didn't notice how bad it was because of how I was feeling.
One of the things that certainly helped me regain my confidence was having conversations with other people who had gone through similar situations. They'd been in similar businesses or similar training systems. They had very similar experiences with their upline mentors. And they'd come out on the other side, making certain decisions about their lives. Having those conversations with others who shared those experiences really helped me separate the wheat from the chaff—the stuff that was going to continue to be useful to me versus the stuff that maybe did more to hurt than help me.
Something that I had started doing quite intentionally before ultimately choosing to leave network marketing was writing my first book, The New Music Industry. That turned out to be a great decision because I had a project that I could turn to, that I could focus on, that I could pour myself into. Even though I pretty much knew the book wasn't going to act as a replacement for the business I just left, I also knew that I would probably end up moving a lot of copies. And I did.
There are different ways of navigating difficult situations like this. You might benefit from therapy. You might benefit from meditation, journaling, or reflection. Just know that there are different approaches.
Even though you might feel down, even though you might feel depressed, even though it really might suck to have to go through all that and process it and feel like maybe you wasted years of your life on something you ended up choosing not to do—there's a lot of good that can come out of it too. It's just a matter of choosing to work through it to find the golden nuggets.
In this post (and video), I share how I rebuilt my confidence after network marketing disappointment—and what helped me move forward. https://davidandrewwiebe.com/?p=28059
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